Feeling of frustration while dealing with kids
Get ready for a slight rant here. We all want our kids to be happy and free, but it is difficult for parents to deal with their kids not attending school. Most children need routine and structure in their lives to feel secure and happy. Assuming they didn’t have an early start on the Christmas holidays like some kids do. It has also shot up massively in recent years as schools have been allowed to extend the summer holiday.
The schools have a lot of power. At least when they are inside the school door, they are being looked after by experts, however imperfect they might be. They are also being looked after in small groups with qualified teachers without constant interruptions or pressures from family life. I know my child would enjoy more structure both academically and for socialization, but I don’t miss them enough to want them home at these times.
I really love how this post starts out. The author jumps right into the feeling of frustration rather than waiting several paragraphs to introduce her reader to her frustration. That’s an efficient move. It also instantly showed me where I am—I’m here reading this because I feel that same frustration.
You don’t need detailed answers here if all you need is a sympathetic ear. Just vent about whatever’s bothering you, and your friend will probably be happy to listen. Try not to criticize any family members (your partner or kids) as this might get you into fights you really don’t want during the holidays. Be a loving parent and focus on what matters most over the next few weeks. In fact, there are many ways to help yourself feel less emotionally frustrated by having your kids home. Here’s a quick list:
You feel that you’re not an exemplary mother because you can’t enjoy the extra time with your kids.
You may have felt overwhelmed by your children’s needs and expectations of you. Or you may have felt guilty about not enjoying the extra time with them or about what you have to give up to spend more time with them.
Most mothers have these feelings from time to time. It’s normal for us all to feel this way from time to time; it doesn’t mean that we’re terrible mothers.
If this is a familiar feeling for you, try talking to someone about it – perhaps a friend or family member who has children. You might find it helpful just to get it off your chest – there’s no need to worry about whether they’ll think less of you!
You feel you can’t live up to the image of motherhood that society expects of you. You think that taking care of your family is an obligation rather than a joy. I know the feeling. I’ve often felt like a terrible mom for not enjoying extra time with my kids.
But here’s the thing: I’m okay with that. Being an excellent mother has nothing to do with how much fun you have with your kids. The only thing that matters is how well you care for them. And as long as you’re doing that, you’re doing just fine.
Your kids are adorable, but you feel emotionally frustrated from being with them all day.
Your kids are cute, but you feel emotionally exhausted from being with them all day. Permit yourself to play! This means doing things together that make you both happy and help your children develop their social skills.
Here are some ways to play:
- Play outside. Go for a walk or ride bikes together; throw a ball or build a fort in the backyard.
- Play with toys together. Playdough, puzzles, Legos, and beginner’s art kits are all toys that invite children and parents to sit down together and create something unique.
- Read books together. Make it a ritual to pick up books at bedtime or when you’re relaxing at home on the couch at night before bed.
- Read silly stories, poems, and joke books — anything that will help kids learn how to read fluently by sounding out words and blending sounds together into words they already know (“I get it!”).
Set aside at least one evening each week where you have no other responsibilities and spend time with your children doing something that makes both of you happy. Parents need to take care of themselves too!
My mom would take us to the park or library when I was a kid. She’d always have a book out, and she’d be reading. It didn’t matter if we were sitting on the floor or walking around. She was always reading.
One day I asked her why she read so much, and she said that it gave her time for herself. She needed time away from us kids to recharge her batteries and come back to us with energy and enthusiasm.
I think this is one of the essential parenting tips I can share with you — give yourself permission to play! It means doing things together that make you both happy. It doesn’t matter if it’s playing soccer in the backyard or going shopping at the mall — what matters is that it’s fun for both of you and gives you a chance to connect with each other outside of work or school responsibilities.
Kids need time with their parents — not just time with their parents doing stuff around the house (although that’s important too), but real-time where they can be themselves without worrying about getting top grades or finishing chores on time.
Kids are high maintenance and increase your feeling of frustration and stress.
Kids are high maintenance and add to your feeling of frustration, so you become emotionally exhausted from being with them all day. Kids can be exhausting, especially when they’re teenagers. They’re constantly asking for your attention, whether it’s because they need help with homework or want to talk about their latest crush. When you’re trying to balance a busy life and career, this constant neediness can cause you to feel emotionally drained.
The good news is that there are some things parents can do to reduce this feeling of emotional exhaustion. Parents need to take care of themselves for them to care for their children properly. Here are a few tips on how to keep yourself emotionally healthy while raising kids:
- Find time each day for yourself — even if it’s just 15 minutes.
- Spend any free time doing something relaxing, such as reading or meditating.
- Create boundaries between work and family time, so you don’t bring work stress home with you.
- You’re constantly running around trying to keep them happy and entertained.
- They want your attention, even when you need to get things done.
- You don’t have enough time for yourself because you’re dealing with their needs 24/7.
My kids are high maintenance in the sense that they require a lot of attention, which is fine because it’s what they need. But it’s not so easy if I’m trying to get other things done simultaneously (like writing this article).
I also have little free time for myself, which I’ve always wanted since having kids. So, as much as I love my kids and want to spend every minute with them, I deserve some time for myself as well. Even just an hour or two where I can be alone in my bedroom with no one asking me for anything!
It’s hard too because there’s always something that needs to be done around the house (cleaning up after three small children) or fixing dinner (another thing that requires constant supervision). And then, if you’re like me and working full time outside the home too, there isn’t much time left over for yourself at all!
But this isn’t okay — especially if you have a child with ADHD or autism spectrum disorder (ASD). Your child is already dealing with enough emotional challenges daily; he doesn’t need to deal with your anger as well.
You’re not getting enough sleep at night, so everything seems more difficult during the day — even tasks like getting out of bed or brushing your teeth. This means you probably don’t want to deal with anything extra while already feeling overwhelmed. So when one of your kids asks you to help clean their room or do their homework after school, they might get an angry response instead.
It’s challenging for you to set boundaries and concentrate on your own tasks.
This doesn’t mean that you’re not capable of being productive. You need to take some extra steps to ensure that you’re not distracted by other people’s needs and demands.
You may have difficulty saying “no” when people ask for help or favors, but there are ways around this problem. For example, if someone asks your opinion on something, give them an honest answer, offering no solutions. This way, it’s easier for them to make their own decision without feeling like it has pressured them into doing something they don’t want to do.
If someone really wants your help with something, make sure they know how much time or effort they’ll need from you before saying “yes.” Otherwise, they might feel disappointed when they realize how much work is involved in completing a task!
If you devote too much of your time, it could be because:
- You don’t know how to say no.
- Sometimes, you think saying yes will make other people like you more.
- You want to please the person asking you for help or advice.
- It is normal that you want to feel needed by others.
You’re also very sympathetic, which means you often get involved in other people’s problems. You’re a keen listener and can help others work through their issues. But if you let yourself get too involved in other people’s lives, it could take away from your own happiness.
You are also very intuitive and sensitive — you have strong gut feelings about things and can pick up on things that other people miss. This can be a valuable asset in life, but it also means that sometimes you take on more than is healthy for you.
You’re so busy making sure everyone else is happy that you don’t have time for yourself. You end up neglecting your own needs, leading to feelings of resentment and stress.
You might take on too much responsibility and put yourself under unnecessary pressure. If someone asks you to do something, you’ll probably say YES without even considering whether you have time.
This could cause problems at work because it will affect your productivity levels. It could also cause arguments with people close to you who think they’re getting preferential treatment when they’re not.
You have trouble getting your kids interested in activities that don’t involve screens.
The problem with letting your kids play video games is that it makes them less active and more sedentary. The average American child spends 7 hours a day using electronic devices, and the average teenager spends 9 hours a day. Children are not getting enough physical activity, and they lack social skills because they don’t interact with others as much as they used to.
- You have trouble getting your kids interested in activities that are not screen-related.
- You constantly talk about the adverse effects of technology and screens on children’s development.
- Something addicts your kids to their devices, affecting their mood, behavior, and health.
- You have a hard time understanding why they can’t shut down their devices and do something else.
- You worry your children are not developing other interests or hobbies because they are always stuck at their own devices.
You have trouble getting your kids interested in activities that are not screen-related. This means that you’ll have to develop ways for them to enjoy doing something besides playing video games. This could be like spending time outside or doing outdoor activities, like hiking or camping.
So how can you get them interested in anything else?
The first step is to change your attitude toward technology and how it affects your family. You need to view it as a tool for learning and entertainment rather than an enemy sucking up all your children’s time. Once you see it this way, you can begin using technology to encourage other kinds of playtime with your kids.
I remember being there, and it is frustrating. My daughter started showing an interest in photography when she was six years old. I was excited to see her. Because Her choice of a hobby requires creativity and imagination instead of staring at a screen.
My daughter took many pictures with my camera over several years but never developed an interest in photography as a hobby. She eventually lost interest and stopped taking photographs altogether when she was 10 or 11 years old.
You don’t want to leave your home because there is more risk of getting sick by being around other people than what you think there is at home.
In the era of Covid-19, a virus spreads throughout the body and attacks the lining of your respiratory tract. The respiratory tract lining comprises tiny hairs called cilia, which help clean out any bacteria that may enter your body. When these hairs stop working, they allow the virus to enter your lungs.
You cough and sneeze to clear out your lungs when this happens. Unfortunately, this does not work very well with colds since most cold viruses live in mucus (saliva) or on surfaces, like door handles, phones, and keyboards. You may also experience difficulty breathing because of inflammation (swelling) in your chest caused by fluid buildup and leaky blood vessels in your lungs. This can lead to pneumonia if left untreated for long periods or if it gets severe.
You may have a cold or the flu. The good news is that most people recover from both within a couple of weeks. So, if you’re feeling better in a week or two, there’s no need to worry. But you also don’t want both to stay home and get sick, so what do you do?
It depends on how likely you will get infected with the virus. If you contact someone who has the virus and symptoms (coughing, wheezing), it would be wise to avoid them. However, if they do not have signs and have no other illness besides the flu, it is probably okay for you to keep around them.
It is always better to err on caution when dealing with any disease. This is especially true when dealing with something like this, where you can’t see it or test it quickly. You’ve been working hard at your job and feel resentful for spending so much time with your kids when you’d rather be doing other things.
All parents feel frustrated about being at home all the time. We’re in unprecedented times, and it’s okay if we can’t handle everything perfectly.
I am a mom of two young children, and I have been at home for the past eight years. I spent the first three with my first son and the last five with my second. This has been an incredible experience, but it has also been extremely challenging.
I have struggled with a feeling of frustration, guilt, and depression. These feelings can be overwhelming, especially when you feel isolated from your friends and family because they work full time.
We’ve lost our identity as individuals — people who did things outside of our homes — to become caregivers, teachers, and maids for our families. We’ve had to sacrifice ambition for stability and financial security for our children’s well-being.
I’m not talking about the occasional rough day or having one too many tantrums thrown by your kids. I’m talking about dealing with your husband’s work stress spilling over into your home life. Those things happen to all of us from time to time.
No, what I’m talking about is something different. It’s the feeling that you struggle to get through it every day, even when everything seems fine on the surface, without losing your mind completely.
It’s like you’re barely keeping it together as you try to balance being an involved parent, loving spouse, and attentive friend. Yet, you need to take care of yourself physically and emotionally so that you don’t exhaust yourself at the end of each day. (which would be problematic for everyone).
I’m also a parent, and I know it’s challenging to find the time and energy to work when you’re in the middle of parenting. I also know that fitness can help with stress, which is something we could all use right now.
If your schedule allows for a bit of exercise each day, that’s great! But if not, try finding 15 minutes every other day or even once a week to get moving.
If you’re having an emotionally difficult time with your child not being in preschool or daycare anymore, remember that most other parents are too. Staying home with kids all day is just a different lifestyle than we’re used to. It’s okay if you have trouble adjusting because it’s new to all of us. Just know that everyone else is feeling the same way you are and that there is nothing wrong with you for feeling overwhelmed about the situation.
Most of us feeling frustrated right now are just trying to cope, survive, and make it through all this. And I am so sorry if you made it through your third trimester without being able to get into your birth school. But unless we want to support each other to change the system, we need to take care of ourselves and our families first.
You are not alone in feeling frustrated. I wish I could tell you we’ll recover more quickly, but it will take some time. Meanwhile, read a magazine, get a manicure, or dance with your kids in front of the TV. It will help.
It’s okay to admit that it is frustrating. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed or like you don’t know what you’re doing, but you know what you are doing. You are doing the right thing you can with the resources at hand, and that is all we can ask of anyone. Just keep moving forward. Get some help, be there for your kids as best you can, and try to enjoy your kids’ company despite being busy in your life.